Top 10 Sex Mistakes by Carolyn Bushong
5. Sex Mistakes Men Make
- Not cuddling after sex (makes us think you’re emotionally cold).
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Not enough romance and foreplay leading up to sex (the stage has to be set for us to want it).
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Not “getting it” that the way you act and talk to us affects our desire for you (if you just yelled at us, you won’t be getting any).
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Assuming that women like certain sex acts because women in porn “seem” to like them (those scripts are written by men, not women).
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Expecting all women to have orgasms (50% to 70% of women have difficulty having orgasms during intercourse).
5 Sex Mistakes Women Make
1. Thinking that all men want it all the time and therefore should have an instant erection (men sometimes have performance anxieties, especially when they like you a lot).
2. Thinking that great sex, and especially oral sex, will make him feel closer –and maybe in love) with you. (It makes you feel closer and maybe “in love” with him, but it’s just sex to him.)
3. Believing that it’s HIS job to figure out how to turn you on. (It’s YOUR job to learn to be sexual and convey to him what you need to be aroused.)
4. Feeling cheated on when he masturbates or looks at porn. (Sometimes he just wants a quick, easy, uncomplicated way to get off.)
5. Taking it personally when he comes too fast (it’s really about how excited he is and when he last had sex).